Sunday 6 June 2010

Its been a week

It has been a week since Jane passed away at St Mary Hospice.
The amount of 'admin' you have to do is amazing. I didn't mind because it took my thoughts away from what had happened. Arranging her funeral was hard, being alone in the house is even harder. I have taken to getting up early so I am so tired at night, I hopefully go straight to sleep without having to think about things.

My children, James (24) Catherine (19) and Edward (17) have been marvelous. They have coped with their mother's death remarkably well. I think they are just relieved that her pain and suffering is over. They have each looked after me and made sure I was not left alone to dwell, fetching and carrying and even cooking. Sarah, the mother to James's daughter Grace has been like a busy bee, shopping and arranging things and continually attentive.

Jane's funeral is next Friday. She has left a full itinerary as to how it should proceed, which was typical Jane. It has made it very easy for me for which I am grateful. I hope she will be pleased with it.

14 comments:

  1. I'M HERE MARTIN..I WILL PUT THE WORD OUT ON MY BLOG..

    TAKE CARE HUN...

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  2. You are so brave Martin ,I am very proud that you decided to write your own blog ,you can share with us ,because in some ways we accompanied Jane on her journey ,so know what happened ,you dont have to explain it ,we know ,do you know what Im trying to say? (very badly ) anyway yes we are here for you Martin ..love Jan xx

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  3. Martin, I am so glad the children are doing well but grief sometimes comes out later. The main thing is that you are all there for each other.

    Jane would be so proud of you for starting this blog thereby keeping in touch with all her friends and keeping us informed about you all. I know it is what she would have wanted.

    We are all sending good thoughts your way.

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  4. I came by way of Lyn's blog and only know of your sorrow because I saw the Call for Support blog. I'm sorry I only know of Jane after her death. I lost my husband some 18 years ago and do know the terrible pain of loosing your other half. Just wanted you to know that you will find a lot of support here from bloggers. They are just the kindest dearest folk. It helps to be able to write it all down too.

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  5. I'll keep you in my prayers.

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  6. I never knew Jane, I just found this all out through Lyn's blog.

    I am very sorry for your loss, but I am glad you are surrounded by your family.

    Thank you for posting and sharing your thoughts. God Bless you !

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  7. I never knew Jane either but I'll be visiting you regularly. I'm sad for your loss and I can only imagine what it must be like for you at the moment. God blses you and your family.

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  8. Hello Martin. I am glad to read that your children are being a strong support system. Sometimes with death, families pull apart in lieu of together. I pray that God will give you and yours peace and comfort during this time of loss. God Bless.

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  9. My prayers are with youall...........Sherry

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  10. So glad you're children have been a big comfort to you. I have you in my prayers.

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  11. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family! Sending out my prayers to you all! Julie

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  12. Hello Martin,I came over from Lyns message,though I did see Guido's call for support message about your sad loss last week,but unfortunately couldn't respond intil now as I have just returned from holiday.May I send my deepest condolances to you and yours.I am sure writing a new blog of your own will help you plenty and prayers for you each day will get that little bit easier." A BIG WELCOME" to blogger.Take Care God Bless Kath xx

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  13. Martin I know what a hard time this is for you and your family ~ I am glad that you are all supporting each other ~ keeping you in my thoughts and prayers ~ Ally x

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  14. Hello again,I thought I would pop in on you to see if you had posted.I pray you are doing fine and know you and yours are in my thoughts,I do so hope things are a teeny weeeny bit easier for you just now.I hope you didin't mind me calling around.Look after yourself.Take Care God Bless Kath xx

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